My name is Frieda and I am hearing impaired. Here, you will find stories of my life growing up and what it is like for me to be a wife, a mom of two boys, and hearing impaired.

Friday, September 23, 2011

Never Mind...

Never mind.

What comes to mind when you hear these words?


Did I really hear that?

I'm not important enough for you to repeat what you just said.

The definition from Wikitonary:


never mind (only in imperative)
  1. It is not important; do not fret; used to reassure or comfort the person to whom it is said.
    I’m afraid I’ve broken your mug. — Never mind, it was old and I was going to throw it away.
    Did you fall over and hurt your knee? Never mind, I’ll put a bandage on it.

  2. Do not be concerned (about someone or something, or about doing something)
    Never mind about me — you go and I’ll join you later.
    Here’s some money for you. Never mind about paying me back; you can keep it.

  3. I withdraw my previous statement.
    You’re a fool. — What did you call me? — Never mind.


Many, many, MANY times, when my husband says it, it just means that the moment has passed.

For example, he may say, "Would you give me a hand?"


Never mind.  I got it.

I bristle when I hear these words and need to remember to reply calmly that I still want to know what he said, no matter what.

He does repeat what was said, and it helps me understand why he said, "never mind."

It makes me feel included.

And that is important to me.

Thanks, honey.

1 comment:

  1. As another hearing impaired reader, I can completely relate to the frustration found in "never mind". I've often heard this as there are many times I simply just didn't catch what the person said the first time. It's not that I wasn't listening or didn't care about what they had to say - I simply just did NOT hear it. However, my family is understanding of this & will usually repeat themselves as they know it can be frustrating/disillusioning if they don't. However, it's others that cannot understand this & continually use, "nvm" and I feel so left out/embarrassed that I didn't hear what they said/asked. It's hard sometimes not to be hurt over this but I've realized that some just don't understand how frustrating it is so they don't intend to hurt me, it just happened. However, I'm thankful to read that you have such a supportive husband - I hope and pray that someday I'll have that as well. But in the meantime, I can completely relate to you. Hang in there :)