My name is Frieda and I am hearing impaired. Here, you will find stories of my life growing up and what it is like for me to be a wife, a mom of two boys, and hearing impaired.

Friday, September 23, 2011

Never Mind...

Never mind.

What comes to mind when you hear these words?


Did I really hear that?

I'm not important enough for you to repeat what you just said.

The definition from Wikitonary:


never mind (only in imperative)
  1. It is not important; do not fret; used to reassure or comfort the person to whom it is said.
    I’m afraid I’ve broken your mug. — Never mind, it was old and I was going to throw it away.
    Did you fall over and hurt your knee? Never mind, I’ll put a bandage on it.

  2. Do not be concerned (about someone or something, or about doing something)
    Never mind about me — you go and I’ll join you later.
    Here’s some money for you. Never mind about paying me back; you can keep it.

  3. I withdraw my previous statement.
    You’re a fool. — What did you call me? — Never mind.


Many, many, MANY times, when my husband says it, it just means that the moment has passed.

For example, he may say, "Would you give me a hand?"


Never mind.  I got it.

I bristle when I hear these words and need to remember to reply calmly that I still want to know what he said, no matter what.

He does repeat what was said, and it helps me understand why he said, "never mind."

It makes me feel included.

And that is important to me.

Thanks, honey.